We all know how difficult it can be to forgive. We often cling to the stories about how we were mistreated. They were wrong, they behaved badly, and they should apologize. The problem is that we can do nothing about them, how they acted, and whether or not they feel remorse and make amends. The only thing we can do is free ourselves by letting go of our anger, hatred, and thoughts of revenge. The hurtful act may remain a part of our life, but forgiveness can bring a peace that will help us continue moving forward. We can forgive someone, even find compassion for them, without excusing the harmful act.
Immaculee Ilibagiza, author of ‘Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust,’ is a shining example of someone who has learned to forgive the unforgivable. In 1994, Ilibagiza spent 91 days hiding in a four-by-three foot tile bathroom with seven other women while savage killers hunted them. Her friends and neighbors turned against her, burned her home to the ground, and mercilessly butchered her family and her Tutsi ethnic group. While she hid she lived on table scraps and her faith in God. The only weapons she had against the fear, rage, hatred, and hopelessness that tormented her every waking moment were prayer, meditation, and visualization.
For Goodness Sake is bringing Ilibagiza back to Tahoe on Saturday, Sept. 17. Her talk will focus on her experience during the Rwandan Holocaust and forgiveness. She will also give an update on Rwanda, the work she does with her Left to Tell Charitable Fund, which directly benefits the children orphaned by the genocide, and her personal development.
‘I had to find a way to get the hatred from my heart, but that was beyond me. I turned to God and asked Him to help, and He did. He touched my heart and taught me how to forgive those I hated,’ she said. She prayed for the murderers, that they would see the evil of their ways and be forgiven. In doing so, she was transformed. Victory over hatred can only be won with love. People’s minds may be sick, but their souls are not evil.
Since its 2006 publication, ‘Left to Tell’ has been translated into 15 languages and Iglibagiza has become known as a world-leading speaker on peace, faith, and forgiveness. In June of 2007, For Goodness Sake hosted her sold-out appearance at the North Tahoe Conference Center.
Nancy Lopez, who saw her speak in 2007, said, ‘It was amazing. What was so wonderful is she had a way of telling her story with so much love, forgiveness, and passion. I expected the night to be somber but what I took home was this love that she had, this love for humanity.’
Immaculee Ilibagiza will speak at 7 p.m. on Saturday, Sept. 17 at the Truckee Community Recreational Center, 8924 Donner Pass Road Truckee. Tickets cost $30 for adults and discounts for students and children. Info (530) 550-8981.